Friday, May 8, 2015

Eharmony...for Ministers and Churches.


As I progress through the Search and Call process I’ve started calling comparing it to E-Harmony. (Although, really, I’ve never been on a dating website because Cory and I met and married just when those sites started to gather momentum.) Not long ago I had a phone interview with a church quite some distance from where I live now. I was just as excited, jittery, and nervous and felt just as awkward as I remember first dates being. It’s tough to interview over the phone. So much is lost in translation—so much communication depends upon unspoken expression. This process has of course got me thinking about how best to represent myself—but also how to do that in the most authentic way possible. How much of my quirky humor do I let shine through? Was I too confident? Not confident enough? Where is the line between being sure of myself and hubris? (Cory likes to tease-kindof-that I am not overburdened with humbleness).

Many years ago the first Senior Minister I worked with, Jan, made an offhand comment to someone about how one had to have a strong ego to be a minister. At the time I didn’t really understand, but that has stuck with me through the years—and really we do have to have a strong sense of self. A strong sense of who and where God is calling us to be and the strength of character to follow through with that call.


I think about my character a lot these days. As in, what are my best traits, my worst (groan). Just a couple of days ago I sought advice from my last senior minister and mentor, Gary, who suggested that each interview and contact in the search and call process is an opportunity to learn something about both myself and my call. I am trying to fully embrace this process…as awkward and exciting as it can be. I imagine this is just the beginning of the potential ups and downs of this process. And I continue I try to remember to ask… ‘what am I learning’…instead of ‘where am I going.’


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